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Is “Social Networking” being “Unsocial” to YOU ???

How many of you think that the following points seem to be happening with you:

1.      You open your account after 2-3 days and the only messages you find are of invitation to games-my calendar-birthday reminders.

2.      In spite of having more than 200 names in your friend list, the only people responding to your posts are your wife, sister, brother, cousins and 3-4 odd friends.

3.      For the 20 “likes” you press in a day, you end up receiving about 10 odd in a month.

4.      Your friend’s photo of an empty beer bottle receives more comments than your picture in a hospital bed.

5.      You wish an average 1-2 friend “happy birthday” every day and receive not more than 25 on yours.

6.      Most of the friends, on whose status you religiously comment, hardly notice your status updates.

Welcome to the world of unsocial networking!!!

The social networking sites, apart from being gender biased, somehow present you with a hazy truth about how popular you have been as a person. It is not that people don’t care about you. It is like a forced introspection that how much people are interested about what’s cooking in your kitchen.

What you see on your wall, or what you don’t, is not what defines you. The responses you get do play a major role in updating your circle. But as far as dictating one’s social worth goes, the social networking sites may not be a reflective mirror.

What these sites have done is redefine socializing. But what they cannot redefine is the importance of the “contact phase”. They are free not because they are noble souls who want us to get in contact with the whole world (Google their revenues) but because it is the human tendency to be ecstatic about anything that does not cost other than your time.

So, does it mean that you are a lonely soul?

I try and put it this way.

You have been working hard throughout your life because you felt that the respect in your own eyes would matter more than a 1000 name friend list. While doing this, it is natural to get ahead, drift apart, lag behind or even get lost. The people who are able to stick around you are the ones who would define you as a person. Because it not the writing on the wall that matters when you judge yourself.

Don’t let the numbers define you. You can’t count your happiness, tears, memories and love!

…because they are much more than silly “likes” and “pokes”!!!!

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  1. April 3, 2012 at 4:07 pm

    Thoughts portrayed beautifully! I wish you’d written a little more…:)

    • April 3, 2012 at 6:39 pm

      thanks for the words of support…we ain’t hungry for the fame…a pat on the back is worth a jackpot…

      • April 8, 2012 at 11:29 am

        Very truly said! When someone recognizes the effort you’ve put in to convert your words into thoughts, and praises them, it’s more than enough!

      • April 8, 2012 at 11:31 am

        one word – “MUTUAL” !!!!!!

  2. May 25, 2012 at 11:34 pm

    soo true!
    now i am social on all social networking sites. and i am not a stalker, you must’ve realised! :p
    so can i have your facebook profile link, sir?

  3. Asifa Zunaidha
    July 17, 2012 at 4:48 am

    Really nice one… How come I never strolled along to reach this?!! People do forget real friends in search of virtual friend lists…

    • July 17, 2012 at 9:20 am

      happens a lot…and we have to understand that emotions are not numbered and life is not listed ! 🙂

  4. February 21, 2013 at 10:38 am

    Its always nice to stay connected with friends, family and others through virtual world…but for humans it is also very important to have face to face interaction. Social networking cannot replace real life relationship with real people in this real world. So numbers just don’t matter at all if you are not connected to them from heart and mind.

    • February 21, 2013 at 1:00 pm

      …a very true and subtle interpretation of the reality for sure Rachna !

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