Home > Poems > Disfigured Bond Of Faith

Disfigured Bond Of Faith

According to United Nation Population Fund Report, around two-third of married Indian women are victims of domestic violence and as many as 70% of married women in India between the age of 15 and 49 are victims of beating, rape or forced sex.

The tormented women show the tendency to remain quiet even after the inhumane behavior. But a woman undergoing domestic violence is never the same – physically or psychologically. This psychological set back and trauma because of domestic violence affects women’s productivity in all forms of life. The suicide case of such victimized women is also a deadly consequence and the number of such cases is increasing.

The only solution is to stand up to this cruelty even if it is happening to someone nearby you.



With devoted fortitude I walked by your side,

nourishing your aspirations and dreams.

I gave away things holding me together.

In your abode, I felt I would beam. 

I thought you got carried away, the first time.

Must’ve been something which I had done.

My blemished face still tried to smile

as my wrecked heart wept, stunned. 

Now, too often, shades of blue and black

soar upon the grain of my expression.

Disfigured face is easier to hide.

How should I hide my faith broken? 

Wiping the floor of our cherished adore,

stains of blood and trust shattered.

Wounds on my soul won’t heal by time.

How should I raise my meaning, battered? 

My pastel eyes still don’t demean,

the strength I had once known in you.

No one will understand, me neither,

why love couldn’t see us through.

  1. July 19, 2012 at 9:22 am

    “soar upon the grain of my expression.” grain of expression…I’ve never heard of expression described in such a way!

    “I gave away things holding me together.” I like how this line foreshadows the downward spiral…tragic and unsettling…the pain and sacrifice in letting go of the very things that hold you together…you expertly captured the feeling of isolation…

    • July 19, 2012 at 10:16 am

      Thank you Querida…it is not a happy feeling when you write about things like this – domestic violence…but the truth always slams hard on your face..

      The thing which is demeaning towards a lady demeans the whole society and our upbringing. Moreover, there is no logic behind this, whatsoever.

  2. July 19, 2012 at 9:37 am

    Another abuse which rarely leaves physical scars is emotional. It’d be unfair to weigh which is the worse kind.
    But i fail to understand how can anyone physically or emotionally hurt a person who loves em beyond reason!

    • July 19, 2012 at 10:18 am

      That’s why the last para…because I fail to understand the same thing..but, it is a grave reality of inhumane sense from the so called human beings.

  3. July 19, 2012 at 11:11 am

    Its very well written.. every emotion is just bang on!

    • July 19, 2012 at 11:15 am

      Thank You Neeraj bhai…this is a real sorrowful but real face of our society.

      • July 19, 2012 at 11:38 am

        Cruel face of male dominance.. That is why I support women being self dependent and aware for their rights.. There is no point of continuing such marriages for society’s sake.. sense of equality has to do everything with this. We are the society and must work towards improving it.

      • July 19, 2012 at 11:41 am

        Totally agreeing. Life should not be treated as an agreement or some senseless compulsion

      • July 19, 2012 at 11:44 am

        F**k the compulsion.. When we don’t accept forced love then why all this.. Remain silent on crime is also a crime.. we should voice it out always.

      • July 19, 2012 at 11:48 am

        We have to start this as one single individual every time…these are the topics which hurt as – but is feeling the hurt good enough? No…we need to act too.
        Thoroughly with you !

  4. Archana
    July 19, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    awesome post !! … Some guys usually think girls are lucky they can just get married , they dont have any struggle to do …. but i totally oppose that !! , i feel girls are so unlucky in India, cos sometime they have to remain unspoken in their life changing turning points … !! they just have to sacrifice !! and i feel its a mistake made and practised by women from past !! 🙂

    • July 19, 2012 at 7:46 pm

      If a woman has to be strong – she would be when she decides to lead as an example all the other women.

      Very correctly stated Archana…thank you

  5. July 20, 2012 at 12:24 am

    This poem very accurately depicts what a domestic violence victim feels, as well as her inner dialogue. It is as true here in America and around the world as it is in India. I survived domestic violence thanks to two people who made me understand that what was happening to me wasn’t right, but many others saw my bruises and said nothing and took no action. It is a horribly difficult subject, but those who see the signs need to take action. The victim may not listen at first, but those little seeds that one can sow that violence shouldn’t be a part of a relationship, or that the control enforced is not normal, can and will make a difference. Thank you for writing such a thoughtful poem and for helping to spread awareness.

    • July 20, 2012 at 12:41 am

      Hey Anona…I feel for wht you’ve been through…this blogging world is so humble and sincere to all of us as it helps us to realize the strength in words and companionship…I know how difficult it is for women in a situation where she thinks of only sacrificing her body and soul…you have been strong and have survived this gruesome stage – speaks for the might of your will power…women like you have to be the flag bearers of such change….Thank you so very much

  6. July 20, 2012 at 1:16 am

    truly reflected the emotional trauma of the wounded souls,the wounds on the flesh can always be healed ,but on the souls can never be… great step for the initiative for awareness for this violence…

    • July 20, 2012 at 9:03 am

      Thank you Soumya…we have all known these evils…time to stand up against them.

  7. July 29, 2012 at 9:03 pm

    ‘How should I raise my meaning, battered?’ – the words I loved the most. Not many in our society quite realize the magnitude of loss incurred when a person loses her/his meaning – the world seems happy if you just manage to play on the role you’re ‘supposed’ to play. Also, thanks for using your creative abilities to take up certain causes. Huge appreciation, Prashant.

    • July 29, 2012 at 9:08 pm

      First of all – thank you so very much for coming back !! It was so awesome earlier when you had dropped by with your precious comments which provided me with a diff perspective about writing – to evolve while expressing.

      Domestic violence is not what happens inside 4 walls neither is it anybody’s personal problem. Its a cancerous disease which has to be spoken of and fought against.

      • July 30, 2012 at 12:44 pm

        Glad to know that my comments could provide you with a new perspective :-). And the care you take to respond to each comment so-very-personally is great. Yes, domestic violence is probably far greater a curse than the perpetrator, the silent watchers and the victim herself realizes. And hats off to every parent who raises his/her girl child while instilling in her the faith that she, being a ‘she’, is no less.

      • July 30, 2012 at 1:07 pm

        Like I say….

        In man God created his own reflection.

        Then in a woman – he created something perfect.

  8. September 20, 2012 at 9:39 am

    Awsome post. Your words touched me.

  9. February 21, 2013 at 3:29 pm

    This is so touching. Every word reflects the physical as well as psychological pain of a woman being subjected to domestic violence. But I think the only solution to this problem is fighting for it. Women should not surrender to violence at any condition. Suffering in silence is not doing any good instead it only shatters the victim completely inside and that actually leads to suicide. If I talk about society nobody actually come forward to help or support the victim. This is an individual fight that can only be fought if women empowers herself at a psychological and physical level. This is actually a very sensitive topic and needs to view from so many different angles. But your poem truly reflects the agony of vicitim.

    • February 27, 2013 at 7:11 pm

      thank you and lets pray for his evil to die soon

  1. No trackbacks yet.

leave your precious words here

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: